The Validation Dance

“Approval is a lover who will always break your heart.”- SAMMY RHODES Last year I had a broken heart. It was the product of years of living for other people, for approval, for external validation.  My name is Kathy and I am a people-pleasing-gold-star-validation seeker. Validation is a tricky thing. We all seek it to some […]

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The Case for Over-Loving

‘Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. … To love is to be vulnerable.” CS Lewis from The Four Loves In the […]

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